This site is to inform individuals of my struggle with a horrible disease that has taken control of someone I care about. This disease has caused a lifetime of pain that will not ever be healed fully. It has affected not only Caitlin and myself; It has affected my 3 children. I have never been the type of person to claim I'm a victim; but like all things in life, you learn from your mistakes. I now understand why its important to step forward, realize, and accept being labeled a victim when you are one. I am not trying to bring shame to the person featured in this website; I am doing this more for myself. To clear my name and for once, show my side of the story. My own friends have abandoned me because of lies Caitlin has told them. I'm still to this day finding out from people that Caitlin has manufactured disinformation about me and thats another reason why I've created this site: to regain a reputation that she has purposely destroyed. If you are here reading this, chances are you think you know Caitlin. And chances are you do not know her at all. I invite you to explore this site fully and gain a better aspect of her. I officially started this site on 2/28/2020. It is a massive task to add all the media I have to this site so I will start off by adding media one piece at a time, changing the site as I go. So please come back frequently to see more.
I didnt know what "gaslighting" was until very recently. When I saw this video, I was amazed; every thing that was being described was exactly what Caitlin has done to me. You will constantly hear her say lies like "you constantly cheated on me", "you don't help me out financially", "youre a piece of shit", "you don't even see your kids", etc... It was a difficult choice to post them because she is very convincing; and to those that are unfamiliar with me- it may sound believable. Honestly I got to the point where I stopped acknowledging her lies, and wouldn't even respond to them. I figured it was because of some mental disorder she had where she would lie all the time. At first, I thought she was a habitual liar who felt no remorse for being dishonest. But it occurred so often that I started to feel she had a disorder that made her believe her own lies as reality. To this day I feel there is something wrong with her, as you will notice in much of the content on this site.
Gaslighting abuse is a manipulative technique that abusers use to make people feel like their feelings aren’t valid or “real.” Often people who engage in gaslighting victims are narcissistic and want to control the abused. People that gaslight often use lies to manipulate victims. The tricky thing about gaslighting is that the abuser isn’t always cruel to the abused. They alternate being mean with giving the abuse compliments. Here’s a way that they’re able to control their victim effectively. Abusers are often highly intelligent and always extremely manipulative. They determine the key people in the person's life and convince the abused individual that their loved ones won’t believe them if they reach out for help. Abusers often turn people against their victim who are important in the victim’s life. An abuser who gaslights isolates their victim so that the abused feels like they can only trust the abuser. People that gaslight others convince victims that the important people around them don’t care about them or have turned against them. The abused person believes that their loved ones aren’t on their side and is further dependent on their abuser’s validation. In reality, the abuser is lying about who isn’t on the victim’s side. Lying is an integral part of gaslighting. An abuser makes up the reality and introduces it to their victim. They tell the abused what to believe and what not to believe. The victim then questions their thoughts and may think that they are crazy. If you think you’re in a relationship where you are a victim of gaslighting, trust your intuition. You’re not crazy, and your feelings are valid.
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PEOPLE ALWAYS TALK ABOUT CLOSURE, LIKE IT'S SOMETHING YOU CAN FIND, SOMETHING YOU CAN GIVE, SOMETHING THAT FIXES EVERYTHING.BUT WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU NEVER GET IT? WHAT HAPPENS WHEN LOVE JUST FADES WITHOUT WARNING, WHEN ONE DAY YOU'RE EVERYTHING AND THE NEXT DAY YOU'RE STRANGERS WHO DON'T EVEN SAY GOODBYE? THAT'S WHAT WE WERE. NOT A LOVE STORY WITH A CLEAN ENDING, BUT AN UNFINISHED POEM THAT TRAILS OFF MID SENTENCE. AND I CARRY THAT SILENCE WITH ME EVERYWHERE, BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW HOW TO LET GO OF SOMETHING THAT NEVER TRULY ENDED.
